I think both. My husband assures me that I would make a horrible soldier and end up in the stockade by the end of the first week, so following is definitely a struggle for me. I have an insatiable urge to ask “why”. Of everyone. About everything. I’m sure it’s maddening to others but necessary for me. If I understand what you are doing and why, I will follow. If what you are doing doesn’t make sense to me, then apparently I am staying right where I am or moving you out of the way to lead it myself.