I would like to play for the winning team. All the time. Every game. Anything I do. I know we are supposed to be all PC and touchy feeley and say how wonderful it is to lose and what did we learn, blah, blah, blah. I like to win. I like to do things right. I like to know the plan. Got me to thinking about life coaches and what they actually do. Do I need a life coach? Would this help me be on the winning team. Perhaps I already have one and don’t even know it.
One thing I’m REALLY good at is giving advice. Not your interfering, know it all advice. Not the kind that is unsolicited and nosy. Ok that does happen. But honestly people come to me all the time to solve problems and I love it. I love talking it through. I love the problem solving. I love helping that person. Insert some kind of coach inspired pep talk and that’s me. I want to be a part of that persons winning team. To help them get what they need or to get past something that is troubling them. LOVE it. And this claim to fame has been substantiated by frequently satisfied team mates who say they never thought about it like that, good idea, unique perspective, etc. If I had one of those annoying hockey trumpety things, I’d probably blow it after every successful solving of a problem, it just makes me feel that good.
One problem with this? I don’t take my own advice. I don’t tend to problem solve so well for myself. As a wise sage recently explained to me: I’m too close to the issue. I am not a good coach at that point. I’m more like Robin Williams in the Mars bar commercial – a bit cranky and in need of a sugar fix. That’s where I think we need to remember that we are the most important member of our winning team. That while family and friends are key defencemen/women/persons for us, we need to be the one who roots for ourselves. We need to be the one willing to blow that awful trumpet sometimes. We need to be open to the possibility that we are ready for the big times.
So put me in coach – I’m ready to play. For the winning team: my team. ‘Cuz there is an I in WIN 🙂